CHILD WELL-BEING RESPONSIVE TOOLKITS
Addressing social comparison concerns
Tips to address social comparison concerns
Find ways to emphasize strengths and skills over image.
The Child Mind Institute recommends that youth have “many sources of self-esteem.” Especially for young women, make sure to compliment your child on what she does and her effort, not just her appearance. Highlight your child’s strengths and abilities and support their interests.
Role model authentic connections for yourself and facilitate this type of connection with your child.
Psychologist Dr. Suniya Luthar, founder of the nonprofit AC Groups, reminds us that “kids do what they see and not what you say to them. Demonstrate the power of your own sustaining relationships and your own sense of self-worth. Help your child feel unconditionally accepted. Your child will be protected from the potential negative impact of online social comparison if they feel they have a trusted adult who loves them and sees them for who they really are.”
Encourage critical thinking through conversation and observation.
Psychologist Dr. Pamela Rutledge, Director of the Media Psychology Research Center, suggests youth keep a diary for one week documenting how they feel while using social media. This will help them be more mindful of their activities and feelings. Parents should also complete a diary to enrich the conversation and encourage future connection. Help youth see the role of influencers in defining what is desirable. Try to understand what it is about “likes” or a post that is impacting your child; create space for them to share their inner dialogue (self-talk).
Suggest an experiment.
Some social media apps allow users to turn off the “like” function. If you notice your child may benefit from a break, Dr. Pamela Rutledge suggests a parent ask, “what would it be like to turn off the likes or image filters?” and recommend a trial period to test out how it feels not to track likes or filter images.